When I Grow Up…

Still feeling relaxed, refreshed and lifted from this past weekend.

Eight sistafriends and I Megabused it to Gardner, Massachusetts to celebrate the upcoming union of our homegirl. We spent the bachelorette weekend EATING, laughing, swimming, bonding, and getting massages and facials.

On Saturday night, to acknowledge and support the upcoming transition in the bride-to-be’s life, all of us wrote “Dear Me Then” and “Dear Me Now” letters. The “Dear Me Then” letter were dedicated to the person we each were in our past, and the the people and situations that person attracted. The “Dear Me Now” letters were to who we are today, who we’re working on becoming and the type of partner we want and deserve.

We sat around the fire pit and shared our experiences, lessons learned and hopes. All of our “Dear Me Then” letters were placed in the flames to symbolize closed chapters, growth and new beginnings. We kept our “Dear Me Now” letters as a reminder and affirmation of who we are today and who we want to be.

The entire experience was cleansing. We’re talking about doing it again every season.

Still in a sharing mood, here is my “Dear Me Now” letter:

Dear Me Now,

You are beautiful. I love you.

You are coming into your womanhood – amazed by and in awe of your curves, your roundness; the softness of your skin; the warmth, command and healing of your voice and your touch. You are coming into your sisterhood and yourself.

You are finding your way with your eyes, hands and heart open.

You know and feel that something is coming and all of this – right now, today- is preparing you for moments that are on their way.

You’re learning that it gets worse before it gets better and to give time, time.

You’re learning that this life is pretty amazing and it’s all your’s. Do with it what you wish.

You’re learning that you already came into this world with most of what you need, the rest you’ll gather along the way.

You’re learning and appreciating more and more how highly favored you are.

There are some things you’ll always think, feel, want, know, like and dislike and other things that will change moment by moment. And that’s okay.

One day you’ll be in a partnership that will show you all of who are you, who you’re growing into and give you room to be both.

You’re beautiful. I love.

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